Elsewhere / A sister publication to Wander+Lost NoireA place for the in-between

The WanderingMind.

For the thoughts that refuse
to stay in one place.

Some journeys don’t need a map. This is a place for the questions that follow us through ordinary life: how we understand ourselves, how we relate to each other, and what we notice when we look a little longer.

A child and an adult holding green star-shaped creations in their hands during a visit with friends in Georgia

The Inner Life / Featured essay

The Capacity to Hold the Life You Want

A week with friends, two toddlers and one bathroom mirror made me wonder whether wanting a life is the same thing as having the capacity to hold it.

Published 2026-09-14

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A recurring series / On nuance

The And
Will Set Us Free

Two things can be true at once.

Room for contradiction, context and the truths that don’t cancel each other out. Understanding a perspective does not have to mean endorsing it.

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On the horizon / Relationships & Discernment

When Strategy Becomes a Substitute for Discernment

Upcoming essay · Preview

What happens when dating strategies help secure a desired response while making it harder to see whether generosity, affection or commitment are freely present?

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“We’ve become so focused on learning how to get the desired outcome that we’re overlooking what the process of getting there reveals about compatibility.”

An essay in development. The premise and quotations are shared here ahead of the full essay.

Ways into the writing